Dawn Tolbert

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What Kind of Friend Am I?

My daily Bible reading has me in the book of Job. I’m neck-deep in the advice from Job’s friends.

They’re pretty sure they’ve got things figured out. They sometimes seem quick to point fingers and…well… it feels sort of like they want to kick the poor guy while he’s down.

Hello, wound. Here’s some salt.

As I roll my eyes at some of their misguided statements, I can’t help but wonder if I am more like Eliphaz, Bildad and Zophar than I am like Job.

Do I answer my friends’ heartache with prayer-filled words or with my own two-bit opinions? Am I quick to assume that I know all the facts?

But as I ponder my own actions and interactions, I am struck by the fact that these three guys got an important thing right.

Look at Job 2:11: “When Job’s three friends, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite, heard about all the troubles that had come upon him, they set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him.”

Their friend was hurting, and they decided to be there for him.

We may think those guys might need to be taking lessons about how to comfort someone, but they stepped into the messiness that Job’s life had become.

I pray I’m that kind of friend. I’m thankful I have those kinds of friends.

And we can, as Job’s friends learn and as I’m learning, trust God to sort out the details.

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